what do i know about life, really?

"don't suffer a calamity before it happens"... my good friend's father said this. he was dying of cancer and didn't want people mourning while he was still on this earth. she told me that something like 12 years ago now, and i still think about it any time something really bad MIGHT happen. 'cause i'm one of those people who thinks about every possible thing that might go wrong... in fact, that's part of what i get paid to do at work. but in life, i've come to realize (after many lessons learned) that it's not the best way to go through life. i'm only 27... so what do i know about life really, but for now... this is what i think.

i think when the possibility exists that something really bad might happen, don't hang your hat on that. plan for the best case scenario (with the worst case scenario in mind, so you at least have a backup plan... you can have faith and still be prepared). call it faith, call it hope, call it stupidity, call it whatever you want... but i promise you that things will be much easier to deal with in life if you assume that the thing you want will happen. and when it doesn't, you deal with it and take the new door that opens. because a new door always opens if you're looking for it. and when the thing you want DOES happen, thank someone. be grateful. recognize the little miracles in your life when they happen. whether it's a miracle you wanted, or the miracle you got.